Meeting that special someone can be difficult in modern society, especially with long working hours making it hard to find time to socialize. The new coronavirus (COVID-19) pandemic also affected people’s confidence and has meant many of us are now more cautious than we were a few years ago.
Dating apps can be an appealing way to ease back into the dating scene as you can take the first steps from the comfort of your own home. Here are some top tips for getting started on dating apps.
Do your research.
Before jumping in headfirst, make sure you research the app you are planning to use. Top10.com has recently compiled the top 10 best dating sites and apps of 2022, which is an excellent way to find one which will best suit your needs. It saves you the hassle of searching through them all individually by listing the pros and cons of each along with any subscription fees and age ranges to ensure you find exactly what you are looking for.
Choose a profile picture.
When joining up to a dating app, choosing which photos to upload is key. Everyone wants to post the picture of them looking their best, but there’s no point putting up a photo of you at your cousin’s wedding in 2010 – everyone has changed over the last twelve years! Make sure any photos you post are recent and representative of what you currently look like (don’t add a picture of yourself with a moustache if you only grew one to support Movember and it is now June, for example). By all means make sure you are happy with your photo – ask a friend to act as photographer so you can get up to date snaps or use the timer on your phone camera. Don’t be tempted to add filters (or worse still, photoshop). You don’t want to be labelled as a catfish.
Write a snappy bio.
Most sites have a bio section, where you can briefly introduce yourself. If you are business-minded, think of this as your elevator pitch – an opportunity to sell yourself in a sentence or two. This should represent you as a person so if you are a joker, you can showcase your sense of humor, and if you’re more of a straight-down-the-line type, you can keep it traditional. Either way, this is your chance to make a first impression, and as your mom always said, first impressions really do count.
Show an honest account.
There’s an opportunity to share more about yourself and talk about what matters to you most. If your friends know you as a One Direction fanatic, mention it. If you’ve seen the original Star Wars trilogy sixty-three times, say so. The more honest you are, the more likely you are to find your perfect match. If you find it difficult to write about yourself, ask a family member or friend to help you.
Mention any dealbreakers.
It’s also worth saying what you are looking for in a partner and mention any dealbreakers. If you are a die-hard fan of Kevin Durant and the Nets and the thought of dating a Knicks season ticket holder turns your stomach, it saves everyone’s time if you mention it’s a no-go. The same goes if you are a staunch vegan and are looking for a partner with the same values. It is better to make it clear what you want early on than to spend weeks dating, getting attached and then discovering a heart-breaking fact that means your thoughts of a happily ever after are history.
Go with your gut.
When you start looking at profiles it pays to be selective. There’s no need to rush and you can connect with anyone who piques your interest and talk to them via the website or app. Don’t be tempted to give out your phone number or address however convenient it might seem. Most people will be genuine, but sadly there are still scammers out there. Trust your instincts – often they are right.
Only meet in a public place.
If you’ve made a connection and have both decided to meet in person, always do so in a busy public place. However much time you’ve spent talking to someone online, it is better to be cautious. Restaurants in a busy part of town are a good option for a first date as there are likely to be plenty of staff and other customers you can turn to if you feel uncomfortable. Also remember to let a friend or family member know where you are and call them when you get home safely – you could even arrange for them to call you at a set point during the date to make sure you are okay (and offer a get-out if needs be) if you are being especially careful.
Above all else, stay safe and have fun as you explore the world of online dating. Who knows, you may even meet the one!